how to embrace change: finding safety in others (part 2)
We’re cresting the middle of September and it’s still too damn hot for taking evening walks so I’ve started climbing rocks instead.
Fall isn’t quite here yet and the heat and humidity of the day linger long into the night pushing me back to the sanity of the a/c. It is a sobering change for early September and I am mourning the reality of an ever heating globe.
Though there is grief, joy is always present! As I wait for the air to cool enough for those evening walks (such an essential chance to release stored stories, energy, and stress) I’ve decided to try something new.
My partner has introduced me to rock climbing, ya’ll! They have the smooth agility of a mountain goat quarterback but I am not at all confident in my ability to hurl myself vertically against rock faces with minuscule hand and foot holds. But, as nature is doing her best to regulate her temperature, I’ve given this a try, trusting my sweetheart’s expertise and the 2 feet of cushioned safety mats when I inevitably fall. When I am on the wall, I can’t help but feel, in real time, the way change moves through the body.
Even though major change can feel like a lot, the truth is we are always evolving. Our cells are shedding, regenerating, and recreating themselves again and again.
The person we present to the world today is just a bit different than the person we were yesterday. Maybe a bit injured, or agitated, but hopefully wiser, stronger, and brighter.
Having a soft place to land, whether that is a physical place, a sacred routine, or a loved one that makes you feel seen, heard, and safe, a grounding space is vital as we navigate change.
As you lean into whatever rock face is presenting itself to you today, I offer you a bit of tender support with Part 2 of embracing change like a pro even when the world is burning…(with audio and captions).
CAPTION: This one is a doozy for my trauma babes! But oh so good for moving through change. As an introverted person on the spectrum with a bright yet tender light, it has been hard for me to navigate safety in relationships with other people. Younger versions of me, still healing from childhood wounds have used isolation and guardedness to create an illusion of safety. Now, I know that connection to other people has always been essential for me as I experience change and growth. We need each other and I am no exception to that, no matter how strong I think I am. I am so very grateful for my small circle of folks who take my safety and well being seriously. Being around that kind of radical love is a natural healing mechanism. Now, how do we know if other people make safety a priority? And how on earth do we open our hearts when they've been wounded? Maybe this is a fall workshop for my healing baddies…!In between icing sore muscles and breathing into this new challenge, I'm sending you so much love.
Be brave, lovely. You deserve every ounce of safety you cultivate in this world.
I'll see you in the trees!
V Woods